We all have that little voice in our head. The one that tells us we’re not good enough when we’re about to embark on something new and challenging. I’m yet to meet someone that hasn’t experienced that at some point in their life. So let’s start by recognizing that you’re no different than anyone else. We all encounter these thoughts.
While it’s normal to experience self-doubt from time to time, not regulating it can send you home with your tail between your legs. Left unchecked, self-doubt will snowball into something much more, causing anxiety and maybe even complete avoidance of new challenges. That’s a horrible and boring way to live life.
The first step in overcoming self-doubt is to recognize when it’s present. When that little voice makes an appearance it’s up to you to take note of it, realign your thoughts, and move forward. Yes, easier said than done. Start to realign your thinking by going through all of the positive aspect and benefits of what you’re after. Moving to a new city? Yes, it’s scary, but think about all of the opportunities that are on the other side of the door. You’ll probably even encounter a few that you didn’t expect. There’s good in everything, you just might not see it yet.
Aside from noting the opportunities, you can use mantras to begin thinking in a more positive mindset. Mantras aren’t just some hippy bullshit that’s spouted off to trick yourself into feeling better. Many of those in elite military units use them to help push themselves past what they believe is capable. If it’s good enough for the SEALs to use, it’s good enough for you.
There’s no limit to the number of mantras you can come up with. If you’re coming up short, a simple Google search of “positive mantras” will yield a ton of options. Write a few favorites down on a Post-It note and keep it in your pocket. Bust it out whenever you feel that shithead self-doubt fairy start talking.
We’ll close by talking about action. It’s action that keeps most people from ever going after their dreams. There will be times when that self-doubt fairy is screaming in your ear. Sometimes you just have to tell him to shut the fuck up and spring into action. Go all-in on your actions and I promise your mind will be too occupied to start thinking about what can’t be done.